Impoliteness

Assalamualaikum, as courtesy becomes increasing important in recent years, debates have been raised among those who states that it is acceptable to show impoliteness for some reasons, and those who think that it is inappropriate to be rude to others no matter when it is. Personally I am the latter kind of person, for that in my view, bad manners really cause harm to our relationship with families and friends, our working efficiency, and the future of the political and business area.

     As we know, the meaning of impoliteness is define as not polite or rude, same goes to dictionary.

 Family and friends very important in your life. When staying with families and friends, your impoliteness would really hurt others’ feelings. These are people who you care about and who care about you. So don’t use your rudeness to hurt their feelings and their love for you. Generation gap does exists between you and your parents that you may find problems when communicating with them. They might send you a handphone as your birthday gift while you don’t like this colour at all and think this gift is terrible, or they may consider working in your hometown is the best choice while you just want to go outside and understand what the another world looks like. But your confliction doesn’t show that you could be impolite to your parents, because it is only for your good that they consider these issues.

     In addition, impoliteness might leave a bad impression on others in a work environment, that no one would be willing to work with rude dudes. Especially when handling stuffs in political and business areas, politicians and leaders should make positive and kind impressions on the public and staffs, since what they represent are not only themselves, but a company, a state, and even a country. What they represent is groups rather than individuals. The negotiation won’t success if the two sides show rudeness to each other and alliance could not stay long if the two leaders lose their friend relations.

     Isn’t there any reason of abandoning showing tenderness? Of course the answer will be yes. It is not denied that holding a tough stance at times could let others know you are a person who is brave and cannot be humiliated. But it is not mean that rudeness is good, that to some degree the best way to show politeness and braveness is to be a gentle man of iron.

     In sum, impoliteness would hurt people who you care about when you are with your families and friends, and can damage the future of the group in the work environment. Although sometimes abandoning being tender could be a brave movement, it is never a good reason to be rudeness.

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Why People Go Poverty??

Poverty is the state of one who lacks a certain amount of material possessions or money. Absolute poverty or destitution refers to the deprivation of basic human needs, which commonly includes food, water, sanitation, clothing, shelter, health care and education. Relative poverty is defined contextually as economic inequality in the location or society in which people live.

   Nowadays, most of people know what is poverties and how poverty can affect someone life but never actually experience it their life. They don’t know how the poor people have to endure everyday of their life and they don’t even consider to lands a helping hand to ease their burden. In reality, if we the rich sometime can be very arrogant, they think money can buy anything in the world even human.We can see when someone is in poverty they willing to do anything so that they can survive especially in the 3^rd world country. 

    They are willing to sell themselves or their family for money. For example, human trafficking that happen all around the world and it mostly involving young girl. Even in Malaysia, we can they are many GRO or a foreigner hooker from China, Thailand and Vietnam that work to gain money so that they can lives.Besides that, increase of everyday life expense in modern country can also cause poverty. Sometimes, we thought that the people who went to the big city are actually rich lives a very easy life but actually they have to go through a very thought life because they have to ward very hard just to earn cash to support their everyday life. 

    People in big city such as Kuala Lumpur have to struggle every single day; they have two or three job so that they can satisfy the need of their family. In order to lives in big city both husband and wife have to so that they can have a normal life. For example, in Kuala Lumpur the price of normal groceries is very expensive compare to the country side so this kind of big different in life expense cause difference life style.Other than that, debt also causes poverty. When we owe money from someone that means that we don’t have enough money to pay or buy something that we need to borrow some money from other people. 

     This is because when someone tries to show off to other people by buying all the latest gadget or product that is more than how much than they can afford. Besides that, when we borrow money should borrow from someone we can trust such our friend and bank but not from loan shark. Sometimes people are in a desperate situation they will do anything, even borrow money from loan shark because it is very easy the money rather than loan money from the bank but loan shark is very cruel when it come to collecting the money.

      We also have more money than how much we borrow. Example, if you borrow RM5000; you have to pay 2 times than the price you borrow or they will disturb or threaten your family.In the nut shell, poverty is very bad so we must do everything in our power to prevent it by our finance and if we ever have a lot of money we should help the less fortunate because of karma. When you do good to other people; god will pay you back.

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Childhood is the Sweetest and most Memorable Period in Man's Life

At night, Syauqie, Nizam and Kamarul had their dinner ate café. While waiting for their order, Nizam  saw Fatin and said’ “Hi Fatin! Let eat together with us.” Fatin replied, “My pleasure. Thank you.”, then she sat on the chair together with them.

Kamarul     : “Fatin, do you has ordered your dinner?”

Fatin          : “Oh. I am on diet.”

Syauqie     : “Oh. Are you sure?”

Fatin          : “Why?”

Nizam        : “hey guys! Do you remember about our assignment that had given by our gorgeous teacher?”

Fatin          : “Of course I had already remembered that assignment. Ha! That is why I come here to meet all of you.  We must to finish this assignment before mid-term holiday.”

Kamarul     : “Hmm, it is better if we discuss about the topic today ,because each of us is busy and does not have time to meet together tomorrow.”

Syauqie     : “Hmm, I forgot that my mother will take me at tomorrow night. So let us begin our discussion as soon as possible.”

Kamarul     : “Ladies first, please?

Fatin          : “Hah? I think maybe Nizam should tell us about his story first. Right, Nizam?

Nizam        : “Why me? hmm, okay. My life as a child was a very fun

experience because during that time as a child to experience new stuff because I can get away with it if I ever make a wrong decision and my parents will do anything in their power so that I will never astray from the right path. I still remember when I was still a young boy, I do all sort of stuff with my brother and sometimes we do stupid thing such as imitating the fight that we see on the television. Sure, it is very fun thing to do but this sort of thing can lead to very serious injury whether to us or person around us.

I still remember, during that time the most popular wrestler that been imitate by the boy during that time was The Rock and The Undertaker. Every time we have a little misunderstanding or a disputed between us brother we will settle it by wrestling and it is very fun because we can beat each other up until there is a winner.  Our wrestling fights have rule and regulation so that it will be a fair fight and so that we can avoid from any serious injuries been inflicted to the wrestler. For examples, Our wrestling arena is a little bit different from any other arena because we actually use mattress as the floor and chair as the jumping point for any flying stunt and the most important rule is we must have fair referee for any fight so it will be fair and square fight against the wrestler. Besides that, the referee also function also serve peacemaker because he have to make sure that this fight will not cause any serious injury and the referee also have to make sure there is no foul play between the wrestler.

Practice make perfect, this word had become the beacon for me and my brother to actually improve our skill in wrestling so that the next time we fight each other we can beat our opponent. Since then, every single day we will prepared ourselves by training new skill of our superstar so that we can use the move to defeats our opponent next time. We will practice the signature move of the wrestler so we can use it. It is very fun this activity actually strengthen the bond between us brother and beside that it also serve as a mechanism of self defense for us if we ever involved in any fight. That is why each and every one of the male in my family has such nice body figure beside the height genetic that we inherited from my father.

Fighting! Fighting! every single also have it side effect especially when it involved my mother. I still remember the worst nightmare that traumatized us especially me. On the weekend, during the midnight we had decides to play wrestling after watching it on television. We had already set the arena for the fight so right after the finish watching television; we quickly get on the fight. At first it was a fight between me and my older brother .The fight was just for fun. They were a lot of noise during that fight and there were a lot of mess in the living room because of the fight. At first my mom still can tolerate the fight but after a single incident my mom lose her temper and she start rampaging us by hitting us with a hanger repeatedly for breaking her precious plate in the cabinet."

Fatin          : "Then"

Nizam        : "For you completely understand this story you guys have to hear from the beginning. Ok, as I was fighting with my brother I was just about to unleash the new skill that I had learns. After knocking down my brother I quickly climb the chair to use the flying skill on my brother. As I was jumping , my feet hit the plate cabinet and I can hear the sound of my mom precious plate broken into pieces. Right after I woke up after falling from the chair I can see my mother shadow right in front of me.

During that time, it seems as if apocalypse has come. There is only one thing to do at that time, pray to Allah that it end quickly and painlessly. Since then we have vowed that we will never ever fight in the house again.That is all the things that I can share for the moment. I hope you guys had pleasant timelistening about my childhood"

Syauqie    :“It is interesting,  Nizam and very long story. What about you,   Fatin?”                     

Fatin          : “Hey, look at that the cute child there! She is playing tab. Wow! It is very different with us while we were young. Hmm, as we all know, nowadays is very different with the past which is they usually play indoor more than outdoor activities. I am still remembering some sweet and sad memories of my childhood life. I always remember a drain which is behind our house. The drain has many small fish. Once upon a time, my cousins came to my house and they asked me to play with them at the drain.

Syauqie     : “It is dangerous to play at the drain. Do you have permission from your parents?”

Fatin          : “Hmm, actually, my mother will mad if she knew we played there but the day my mother was not at home. So, we were trying to escape from my eldest sister because she will report to our parents. My gang, Kak Ngah, cousins and I went to the drain to catch the small and cute fish. I am still remembering the name of the fish is ‘ikan sepat’. We caught and kept them in the coconut shell. Some of the active fish will jump to the ground and dead slowly because they can not breathe. So pity of them! And I said, “Bye~ it is okay.”

After have about six to nine fish, we stop caught and started to cook them. We searched some small and dry twigs while my younger sister escape to the house and found matches to light a fire. My cousins found a bowl to fry the fish. While we cooked them on the fire, we felt like a junior chef. As a leader, Angah my eldest cousin will give the fried fish to my grandmother’s cat. Unfortunately our grandmother knew all about our activity and she report to his son who is my father. At dark night, my sister and I were punished to sleep outside the house.

 I felt very guilty at the moment, but now I am still like to buy the fish and kept them as my pet. I think that is all. What about you, Kamarul? Can you tell us about your childhood life?”

Kamarul     : "Wow!!! what an awesome story."

Syauqie     : " Yeah, but I cannot wait to hear a story from you. It is your turn now."

Kamarul     : " Owh, it is my turn already? Sorry, I forgot. hahahahhha.. Actually, I always climbed the tree as I was a child. I love doing it very much almost all type of  tree I had tried to climb. For instance, "rambutan" tree, "langsat" tree and mango tree. There was one tree that I never ever tried to climb which is coconut tree. It is so high and monkey just the only one that bare to take the challenge until now.

 I am not a monkey, I am a human. The memory become more sweeter when it came to fruit season. It felt living in heaven which there were many fruits at my village. Luckily, my grandparent had fruit orchards. They always invited me when to the orchard. Red, purple and green were the colour of fruit and it simply sweet to taste."

Fatin          : " Wait, this is a common story that we always heard from all           people. So boring."

Nizam        : "Yup"

Syauqie     : " Definitely" 

Kamarul     : "Ok, new story. Once upon a time,  I had a desire to learn the way to make kite or maybe called it "wau". Unfortunately, I have a good friend who name Amin. He good at doing that thing. So, I took this advantage to learn and get as many knowledge as I can get. I always saw him played kite at his house compound in the evening. In addition, the house compound was very large and seemed liked a playground. It was very spacious. The day was windy which suitable playing it. By looking at the kite flying high in the sky, I will think about freedom. He thought me everything from the basic thing about "wau" until the end.

We just used the bamboo for the kite frame and we make sured that it was very strong. Then we tested the stability of the frame putting our finger at the centre of the frame. Luckily, the frame was stable as we hope before we sticked the skin to it. Without hesitation, we sticked the skin to the frame. We chose green colour paper as it's skin and we once again tested the stability.

 At the top of the "wau", we use leech to increase the stability and made some unique sound when it fly high in the sky. Before the leech it put on top it, we had pulled it until it become long and elastic. After we put it all together, we flew it in front of Amin's house. The strong wind helped the kite to fly. We very excited that our effort had completely pay. I miss him very much." 

Fatin          : " Very nice, Kamarul."  

Nizam        : Syauqie, I think you have sweet memories to share with us. Do you?

Syauqie     : Owh ya.. and the last one is me, right? Erm, when I was kid, there were many memories that I can’t forgot. And the best memory that I have to share to you all is canon hand made. Ya, sound great right? But it is very dangerous. You know why, because there are many news on the television and newspaper that kids today lose their finger because playing that dangerous thing. I know that canon hand made very dangerous but it’s very fun. 

 During Ramadhan , my cousin and I make a new cannon. We make this cannon without permission our parents, and they don’t  know what my cousin and I plan to do. Usually, we’ll play at night after solat terawikh. All that we need were fertilizer, a tin, water, and the most part important was search a quiet places. Then, after all thing set up, it’s show time. My cousin put fire at the top of tin, then sound was “kaboom”!. After that, my father heard that sound and found us at the back my house.

That night also my cousin and I were scolded and we smiling to each other.  That’s are my best  memory ever when I was childhood.

After a few minutes later, suddenly, Fatin’s phone rang and she got a text from her roommates.

Fatin          : “I have to go, now. My roommates need a key.I    think your order already finished and you need to check it.Assalamualaikum. See you tomorrow morning. ”

Kamarul , Nizam and Syauqie  : “Waalaikumussalam. See you too. Take care.”

Fatin          : “Thank you for giving a cooperation to finish our task.”

           

Kamarul    : “Never mind, our pleasure.”

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CHILD IS A PRICELESS GIFT..

What is the meaning of baby dumping?

Child is a priceless and preciously gift from Allah. However, baby dumping or child dumping virus has chronic cases in our daily life. According to Wikipedia the Free Encyclopedia, baby dumping or baby abandonment is the practice of relinquishing interests and claims over one's offspring with the intent of never again resuming or reasserting them. An abandoned child is called a foundling (as opposed to a runaway or an orphan). Baby dumping refers to parents (generally mothers) abandoning or discarding a child younger than 12 months in a public or private place with the intent of disposing it. As we all know, nowadays, baby dumping virus is one of the most and big social problems in Malaysia. So, what are the best main factors and its prevention in this chronic problem? The main factors and preventions about baby dumping issues in Malaysia are family break-up, peers influence and poverty. As alert students, we will present about this social problem to you for we think and take it as the moral value in our daily life.

One factor that leads to baby dumping virus is family break-up. Family break-up happen when husband and wife are no longer understand of each other. Sometimes they happen suddenly without any signal and it is hard to understand why there needs to be change at all. Their children are the person that most affected when both of their parents decided to divorce and cannot raise their child. The tendencies for they make decision to dump their children are really high. This child will become homeless without an important person to judge them. For example, lately, we found this case in facebook,https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=334489406695648&set=a.199822436829013.61546.199807163497207&type=1&theater , 6^th October 2013, KUALA SELANGOR- Six children are dumped by their parents just because misunderstood in their marriage. We should not take it as a granted because child is a priceless gift from Allah in marriage. In conclusion, the factor that leads to baby dumping or child dumping virus in Malaysia is family break-up.

Next, the factor of baby dumping chronic virus is peers influence. As we all know, every person have friends, but we should choose the right person to be our friends. Baby dumping issue are mostly happen because of we choose the wrong person to be our friends. Sometimes we choose a person that opposite gender that is like to head to the night club. For example, when they are under the influence of drugs and alcohol, it will lead them to have unprotected sex that is without taking any prevention for pregnancy. This case are mostly happen and effect to female teenage because they have immature to understand the effects of free sex on their live. When they know that they was pregnant without marriage, for sure to hide their guilty after deliver their cute baby, they take the short way that they choose to dump their baby in public places such as toilet, surau or mosque. Sometimes, when people found the baby, the babies are already dead. They think that when they put their baby in public places they will save. That is wrong! Hey, what you will feel if your parents do to you same like you do to your baby? What do you feel if your hand is bite by a dog? Or your fingers are eaten by the ant? Maybe you think that your baby does not have any feeling but trust us, your baby is not wrong. Your action to have free sex is wrong, friends! Please to be careful when you choose your friends. In the nut of shell, the factor of baby dumping chronic virus is from peers influence.

Lastly, the factor of baby dumping is poverty. Poverty is the one of the most factors of baby dumping issues. Persons in cultures with poor who are not financially capable taking care their child are more likely dump him or her. These situations usually are happen in marriage couple or non-marriage couple. According the main topic, we focus on teenager that dumps their baby because of the poverty. Teenagers are the person who is around 12 to 21 years old and of course mostly they are students, and of course they do not have money to support the baby needs. So they take the easy way to solve their problems that they dump their baby. They feel the baby put the burden in their life. In facts, their action to dump their baby is not rational and will effects her from mentally and physically. For example, according one of the articles that we read from internet, Psychologists believe that even short-term dumping can damage a child’s emotional and social development. “Even short separation could have a negative effect on the child’s ability to form close relationships,” said Dr Michael Boulton, a child psychologist at the University of Keele. “Babies often form attachment with their mother before birth. They know their mother’s smell and turn to them when anxious or distressed. I f they suddenly find they have gone it can be very damaging.” In addition, Dr Boulton said that mothers who dump their children normally do so under desperate circumstances. “Having one’s first child is the most stressful experience someone can go through. Young mothers can be vulnerable, especially if they are alone and have poverty problem.”

                Long-term solutions results from unwanted pregnancy should be taken by us. The preventions of this chronic social issue in Malaysia are launching sexual education in Malaysia and be responding to unwanted pregnancy. Mostly, baby dumping happen from unwanted pregnancy. Therefore, to prevent this virus it is necessary to launch sexual education in Malaysia to educate individual either teenage or adult about sexuality. Besides, we must respond to unwanted pregnancy. Individuals especially teenagers that experience unwanted pregnancies must received support from us. Maybe they do something wrong by their past but we should save the baby. Just imagine that if you are baby, and you waiting to see the new world and waiting to explore the world by your own eyes, ears, hands, legs and so on, but just because someone do not care to your mother who delivered you as a baby and she dump you like a rubbish, what you will feel? Mad?  Seriously, you know your own answer. In conclusion, to prevent this bad virus chronic issue in Malaysia, sexual education and responding to unwanted pregnancy must launch.

               In conclusion, as educated persons we must think critically about this issue and try to solve it. Child is a priceless give from Allah for us either from marriage or non-marriage. We must grateful and try to be a ‘superman’ and ‘superwoman’ to our baby. Besides, if we do wrong in our life, we must do repentances to Allah. The main factor that leads this issue is family break-up, peers influences and poverty. Besides, the prevention that must we do in Malaysia are launching of sexual education and responding to unwanted pregnancy. Hopefully, this article will make us think and think critically about our world if this virus spread actively among Malaysian teenagers especially Muslims.

Let’s spread our love to the babies who is will take place this world for us! Insya-Allah.

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CULTURE TABOOS.......ReALiTy OR FaNtAsy

Nowadays, people seem to be more optimistic in something that ridiculous. In addition, they just take it directly without knowing the true beside all the these belief. In fact, they always thinking that belief is a belief and lead them to dead-end. People should wisely think about it before making decision on accepting any of it. It that we emphasize right now is the CULTURE TABOO  which have been practically done from our late great grandparents. Maybe past years back then it just for warning or reminder purpose. But, now people are misunderstood and understand it as a disaster if someone broke it.

Please critically think about this mathematical equation(sort                         of.....hahahahha):

               TAB +BUBU ≠ TABOO...

Through wikipedia taboo is vehement prohibition of an action based on the belief that such behavior is either too sacred or too accursed for ordinary individuals to undertake, under threat of supernatural punishment. 


Meanwhile, David Emery said "it is a moral or cautionary restriction placed upon certain actions by authorities of people, which if ignored will result in specific negative consequences". 


So, what the difference?

Nothing. It just the same even in difference sentences. Well, we actually want to expose a little bit about taboo before we go further deeper. We just want all of us open our mind first in the way for gaining more knowledge about it. There are many culture taboos exist around us whether we realize or not. They came without any sign and track. But still, it really strong because it have travel from generation to another generation without any problem. Other than that, they have one specialist whereby there move through mind and not physical medium.

BABYBOIL

The most common culture taboo is " do not ever sit on a pillow, lest infected boils around the anus". It is true?. Let we share our story. Since we were a kid, we feel really strange as our parent said it to us.. Almost everyday we keep trying to reveal the truth. As many time we try, there are no boils infected at all. So, we feel like being on top of the world. We was very happy and sometime smiling alone by ourselves. For the God sake, now we realise that it was the stupid moment in our entire life. We keep questioning ourselves "Why can I think rational about it?".

Actually, along time ago we had experienced having boils at our anus. Because of that, all people thought that it is the effect sitting on the pillow. But, we just ignored it. The boils is so big and it bust up as sit in the car. WOW....it seems like a bloody flood happening in the car. Many colour take place in that flood, yellow, red, and slightly green....hahahhaahhaha....very disgusting. For your knowledge, pillow is use to lay head and it bad for us to sit on it as it can result to smelly anus. Therefore, our ancestors are very clever. They prefer intimidating so we do not make mistake. 

Next,

Everybody are familiar with this taboo "girls who are not married can not sing in the kitchen, as feared would be delayed marriage". Ok........it very scary and terrible. As a precaution, many girls afraid to sing in the kitchen. They decide to sing in the toilet, they bark with emotions and think like themselves is a hot and well-known singer. To us, it take a long time to figure out the answer. When we had grown, we think that there is a likelihood they will splashed saliva into the dish or food in the pot. Maybe true or not?...wakakkaka.... 

Please do not be like this!!!!

   Of course, one more taboo is sound like this "do not open an umbrella in the house, lest the snake will enter the house". Do umbrella has relation with snake?. Erm...thus umbrella is one amulet to called upon the snake?. Try think about that for a while. People always make fun and make nonsense thought when something touch about snake. Besides that, they relate snake with future mate. Some relate it with world unseen. So, are you same like them?

In our account, this taboo actually underline the danger of umbrella in house. All know that umbrella is a thing that suitable use outside. Furthermore, umbrella has sharp corners which can lead to eye puncture. Maybe, somebody will blind. Therefore, our ancestors have notice the problem and create this taboo for the sake of the next generation.

"Do not point finger toward the rainbow, your finger will be crippled". Rainbow are being blame for that, poor rainbow. If the rainbow have feeling, it maybe say like this " what is my fault, I do not do anything :( ". The real thing is rainbow appears indicating drizzle. Soon, the rain will fall and we can get fever. Unfortunately, we have a wonderful story to tell relate to this awesome taboo. It from one of our friend story. 

Let heard it out. 

Poor.......rainbow

"One day, my brother and I walked around the house compound. It was hot and felt like we were going to faint.After a while, we noticed a dark cloud appeared not far from our house and for some reason rainbow also there. I ask my brother "what was that?". He replied " it just rainbow, stupid". Then, I get very angry. He also said me never ever point finger to the rainbow exactly like the taboo. Still, I keep point my finger to it. My brother slapped my hand and scold me. I felt weird. He brought me home and told everything to my mother. Luckily, my mother advised my brother not to get harsh to me. I laughed loudly...hahhaahha. Without hesitation, she told me all thing behind the taboo. Unfortunately, I saw rain falling down outside the house. Therefore, I knew the exact reason my brother get mad at me.. But, he actually worried if my finger will get cripple. It alright . I knew he loves me very much".

Dusk

Aside from that, everyone for sure have heard taboo which might like this " do not go out at dusk". Some people have different opinion regarding to this matter. There are people think it about evil spirit hovering on that time. Other than that, people maybe expect it is not a perfect time to go out and playing. So, different people different idea. We can not blame them. It actually is an idea, nothing is wrong. Now, it time for us to share our opinion. Probably, many people do not know that at dusk, the sky colour is burnt orange. Even it is a colour, it do not means it not have bad effect toward ourselves. Indeed, orange is a symbol of vitality, but it also emits a negative vibration indicating pride, tension and aggressive self-assertion. Effect on psychology is more dangerous than instance effect.In addition, it will hard to remove and heal. A rude and bad people will be born because of this simple matter. Furthermore, orange can damage people eye because it colour tone is so bright and hard. So, we are really proud of our ancestors creating this wonderful taboo. 


With the above taboo that we explain maybe can open everybody thought and mind. We think we have done the best to share this topic. Therefore, last from us. Taboo is actually reality and not fantasy. Thank you.

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